Anyone who was an adolescent or young adult in the 1990s experienced “la hauteur” of the glossy, advertisement-laden, girls’/women’s magazine. The sheer number of them plus the heft of each monthly edition is now remarkable to think back upon, especially given how similar they all were. That commonality applies to not only from one brand to the next but within each individual’s brand’s successive monthly editions.

Mademoiselle was a personal favorite and among the content in each edition that I and my high school classmates consumed voraciously were a series of rinsed and repeated quizzes. The re-packaging of them was nearly endless. The presentations included things like:

• What kind of guy is best for you?
• Find your perfect prom dress based on your personality
• Will your best friend and you stay close forever?

None of us actually based our decisions on such pivotal matters as which boys to look fondly upon or how to style our prom looks on these generic ways to fill the pages between the ads in these magazines. That didn’t mean the quizzes did not have tremendous value for us, though. On the contrary, they were vital to us.

The journey is more important than the destination

Taking the quizzes was a social activity, to be certain. Girls and sissies consumed many hours together going through the quizzes in the mags with highlighters of disparate colors.

That revealed the true value of the content; the quizzes enabled us to form bonds through shared experiences and learn about not only each other but ourselves as well. We learned to be honest and vulnerable about our emotions. We became adept at listening with empathy and intent.

All those marked up mags represented the formation of intimate relationships, hours of laughter, and maturation of emotional intelligence. Their beauty was not in what we learned about beauty but the beautiful nature of the friendships they built and deepened.

It’s that time of year again!

Speaking of beauty, 21 Days of Beauty have returned for fall 2023 at Ulta. SheRea DelSol has a fantastic breakdown of the entire promotional period on YouTube.

Personally, I’m looking forward to getting a good price on the Benefit Cosmetics Precisely, My Brow Pencil (50% off on Sept. 2) and the Smashbox x BECCA Shimmering Skin Perfector Pressed Highlighter (50% off on Sept. 6).

The great thing about the 21 Days of Beauty is that if there are any products you’ve been wanting to try, it’s a tremendous opportunity to do so while not blowing your beauty budget. That, and you earn Ulta points along the way.

Comment and let me know if there’s anything on the list for the promotion you are looking forward to getting a deal on. Also, share your memories of taking magazine quizzes! Smoochies!

As we age, we become aware that people who were adults when we were children, especially our parents, really had zero clue what they were doing and were figuring things out as they went along. To be clear, there are people who had/have zero business raising children. In my experience, though, most parents are approaching the task with the best of intentions amid their own mess and earnestly trying to do their best out of a motivation of love. Still, because they’re people, they make mistakes.

A recent memory that came to mind formed a perfect allegory for a horrible behavior I’ve been guilty of myself in the past and observed in other sissies as well. It’s something we need to eradicate, gurls.

My first woman crush and disappointment

When I was in my early elementary school years, a real girl was one of my best friends. I adored her and looking back now, can see the seedlings of my sissy nature in that even in the first grade, I envied so much about her. It wasn’t a romantic crush at all but a crush nonetheless.

As we progressed through grade school, our times playing at recess diminished. Our taking part in scholastic plus extracurricular activities lessened as well. That was all contrary to my desire, though. I wanted to maintain the close friendship I enjoyed with her earlier in our lives. I distinctly remember the night when I had to face the fact that she didn’t feel the way I did.

It was our first sixth grade school dance and because I was a “boy,” I felt entitled to ask her to dance during one of the slower songs. She refused. I can still feel twinges of my devastation. I retreated to the bathroom in tears and was inconsolable the rest of the night. I explained everything to my mother while still sobbing later that evening when I got home.

I’m not sure, but I believe my mother shared my reaction to the situation with my friend’s mother. Despite my friend’s gravitation away from me, I nonetheless still thought she was amazing. At our first seventh-grade dance, I attempted asking her to dance again, while her mother stood just feet away. As she started to refuse me again, her mother gave her a stern look and said she would be happy to.

I can still see how my friend’s face revealed that she obviously was simply complying with her mother’s orders as we danced. It was then I finally got it through my thick skull that the relationship we had shared as young children was gone forever. Maturity and time had changed her interests.

Looking back on the whole situation now, I believe her mother and mine were wrong in how they handled that situation.

Thanks for the (bad) memories

Beyond teaching my friend that boys have a right to expect her to return their interest in her and if they take her refusal of them poorly, it’s her responsibility to manage that situation, the message to me in that situation was horrible as well. It was that I was somehow wronged and she needed to put herself in a situation she didn’t need to be in just so I wouldn’t get my feelings hurt again.

Instead of those adults explaining to me that my friend has the right to decide for herself who she will spend her time with and what activities she will take part in, and if I don’t like that, then that’s my problem, these mothers placated my ego and sadly perpetuated a dangerous gender norm in our society.

My mother could have helped me work through my disappointment and help me understand that people change, especially at young ages. It doesn’t mean I’m lesser as a person or that I’ve been treated unjustly. Sadly, I learned a lesson I have since had to unlearn.

Sissification is a constant process of unlearning unhealthy masculine behaviors and replacing them with healthy habits. This is one area in which that needs to happen, sissy sisters.

Respecting autonomy in every form

In our destruction of our heterosexuality and masculinity, we so often focus on the physical aspects without giving the relational aspects the same attention. I’ve seen a lot of sissies assume that, “oh, I’m not pretending to be a real man anymore, so real women who I have an interest in should just give me a greater investment because I’m no longer a potential romantic/sexual partner and we now have more in common.”

There’s no way to overstate this: we sissies do not have a right to a real woman’s attention, space, or time. She is free to act as if we do not exist if she chooses and we have to respect that. That applies regardless of how much we would like her to build a friendship with us.

I would further say if we’re unable to move forward in our sissification process without the constant, intimate involvement of a real woman, we need to assess the reason why we are sissifying and if it’s really about becoming a sissy at all.

If the entire activity is really just to feed a kind of voyeurism kink, then that’s not inherently bad on its own. You need to be clear about that with yourself and any one, especially a goddess of a real woman, about that, however. Before you start sharing that with anyone else, you need to get their enthusiastic consent in a clear conversation.

Exposure without that enthusiastic consent is nonconsensual exploitation. An example would be sending a real woman you know a picture of yourself in a dress just to get your jollies without first establishing that she is interested in receiving such content. It’s a sissy version of an unsolicited dick pic and essentially digital rape. Let’s talk about what enthusiastic, genuine consent looks like.

The pillars of real consent

Any sexual activity between two people or more should be consensual, because consent is hot. To be genuine, that consent must be:

• Enthusiastic: everyone involved should communicate that they want to participate in the activity out of their own innate desire, free from any impairment or manipulation. A lack of a statement that they are uninterested in the activity is not a license to assume they desire to do so.
• Revocable: anyone should have the freedom to change their minds completely or place new limits on their participation at any time. All other parties must respect their new boundaries utterly.
• Specific: all parties should communicate exactly what they would like to participate in and anything that is off-limits for them. Again, a lack of a negative statement is not a statement of affirmation for specific acts.

Certainly, there is room for exploration but a conversation needs to happen before that begins about what that exploration will entail and it’s important to listen and watch for feedback along the way. The revocable part of consent is paramount here.

We sissies need to have purposeful conversations with the real women in our lives that we want to share this part of ourselves with about their level of comfort and interest in that. We can’t say we adore them if we aren’t willing to learn about their boundaries and then endeavor to respect them.

That’s all besides the point that our interactions with them should be about them, not us. If you are a true sissy friend to a real woman, she will divulge what’s happening in her life and how she feels about what’s going on. There’s room for girly gabbing about men, primping, and shopping in that but the focus should be on her in that as well from your perspective.

Sissies who expect women to just be a tool to feed their kink are just another manifestation of the patriarchy, dehumanizing women in yet another way, unfortunately contributing to misogyny, and ruining what could otherwise be an amazing mutually enriching relationship. It’s time to mature, gurls.

What makes life the stuff of dreams? Is it having enough independent resources that you can provide for all your needs and most of your wants? Is it a constant feeling of fulfillment in your activities and relationships? Could it be a lack of concerns about threats to happiness? All of those things?

In lore, it seems the constant striving of both antagonists and protagonists alike is to achieve some definition of ultimate bliss. That’s what all the fairy tales boil down to. Someone is seeking whatever they think will make their lives at least better if not perfect.

In those stories, characters are certainly often aided or belayed by forces beyond their control. A lot of times, that comes by supernatural means. However, those means have no relevancy if not for the act of will of the characters, even if they are beyond the control of those characters.

What does that have to do with being a sissy?

The connection to sissification here is that the process, regardless of how magical it feels at times, has very real practical limits. No matter how long we stay caged or how many mental conditioning files we listen to on a loop, some of us will never be able to squeeze our feet into a women’s size 8 stiletto, for example.

Other circumstances in our lives might be immutable no matter how much we wish they weren’t. The consequences of past decisions, relationships, and the sentiments of other people who hold sway in our lives are examples of these things.

As long as we’re stuck hoping for an elf to pop up out of nowhere to magically shrink our feet or a witch who can send us back in time to be benevolent to us, we can’t identify the parts of our lives that acts of our will can improve.

In Greek mythology, Ariadne didn’t sit around and hope that some god would slay the Minotaur or go off and get herself killed in trying to take on the beast herself. Instead, she used her cunning to aid Theseus in the legendary act. Fairy tales can’t come true. That doesn’t mean you can’t be the best fairy possible within the confines of your reality, though.

If you have stories to share of times when you overcame obstacles in your sissification or when you simply came to terms with less-than-perfect circumstances, I’d love to read about them in the comments. Likes and shares are always appreciated as well, smoochies!

When life is going too well there’s always the trepidation over the other shoe dropping and the hope that at least when it does drop, that shoe will be in your size and go with something you already have in your closet. This time span from circumstances playing out exactly as you would have them to the inevitable conflict doesn’t have to be drawn out. Sometimes, it can happen in a matter of seconds.

For sissies, this can take the form of being vulnerable to predators online. Not only are there the usual malware, privacy, and ransomware threats that everyone faces on the Internet but the tiny sissy corner of the web is unfortunately full of carnivorous spiders waiting to wrap you up and suck you dry but not in a good way.

Many times, this exploitation takes the form of an “online mistress” who promises to “train” the sissy to help her achieve her goals. For a price, this person claims, the sissy will have all her wildest dreams come true. The results hardly ever deliver and even when they do, it’s more because of the determination and work of the sissy than any “training” the domme supplies.

So what makes sissy so susceptible to these scams and how can we protect ourselves from not only these threats but many others online? It’s crucial to note as we spend a lot of time on the web.

The Pink Fog clouds our judgment

I’ve written about the “pink fog” effect for sissies before. Essentially, it’s the very real but temporary dopamine high that we experience while in the throes of our feminine homosexuality.

While we’re feeling it, we want it to last as long as possible. Unfortunately, that’s when we’re most vulnerable to predators online. It’s really no different than those who make purchases online to feel a similar rush.

Someone comes along at that moment promising to turn us into a sissy version of Ariana Grande. In the heat of the moment, we buy the sales pitch and open our purses. A few minutes later, we come out of the fog and realize that we were just scammed out of potentially hundreds of dollars.

[A disclaimer before I go any further: sex work is absolutely work and sex workers deserve every penny they get. If you are in a clear headspace when you decide to pay an agreed-upon rate for some adult entertainment, that is absolutely not exploitation.]

Is there more to this than just a con artist happening to catch us in a weak moment, though? I believe it’s deeper than that.

What the sales pitch is really about

The sales pitch that we get in these instances is really pretty similar to that which comes at us from a lot of places everyday. What these people are offering us that appeals to us the most is affirmation and confidence.

A sissy’s craving for those things can be exceptionally strong. We are in the process of shedding old identities and feeling out new experiences in life at a very high rate. Anyone offering to give us some guidance through that process and recognize the gay fairies we are trying to become satiates those cravings.

So, how do we avoid becoming victims of not only these predatory people but our own shortcomings as well? This is when it’s huge to have people who actually care about you in your life that you can reach out to. They can fulfill those needs for affirmation and confidence without you having to blow the money you were going to use on those heels you’re saving up for.

Also, while you’re not in the pink fog, spend that money proactively on a good therapist. Taking care of your mental health will go a long toward protecting yourself from predators.

As far as other forms of online safety go, there are a few recommendations:

• Never give out any of your information (real name, address, etc.) online to someone you don’t know and trust offline
• Use a VPN
• If you decide to pay for some services, use a third-party wallet like PayPal so the recipient doesn’t have your actual financial information

Not everyone who is part of the online sissy subculture is your friend, honey. Take care of yourself, smoochies!

One of the strongest pop culture remnants of the “Parks & Rec” television series is “Galentine’s Day.” In the series, Leslie Knope created the holiday to be celebrated on Feb. 13 of every year as a reason to deepen her relationships with the other women in her life. Since then, women have adopted the tradition and it’s something sissies can absolutely take part in!

Planning is half the fun

This is no off-the-cuff event. The list of invitees, the locale, the menu, and the gifts should all be coordinated and personalized. It doesn’t have to be expensive or flashy but everything must be intentional around the friendships you have with your girls and/or gurls.

Reserve a table at a place where you met your friends. Invite them over and prepare the dish that you all have an affinity for. It’s important to reminisce on what has brought you so close regardless of the venue.

Then, present your Galentines with trinkets that will remind her of your friendship. This is where you get to pour your love for her into your gift, however that looks for you. Once you have everything set up, relax and enjoy every second.

The other half is being in the moment

Once you have everything planned out and everyone has arrived, don’t get hung up on every little thing going perfectly. If you can’t enjoy being with your Galentines because you’re too stressed about the fondue being too nutty or forgetting that one of your friends prefers Bellinis over mimosas, then you’re actually missing the whole point of Galentine’s Day!

It’s about celebrating the women and other sissies who have played parts in making you who are and been resources for you when you needed them. Even if the event is a disaster, they are what is important. Don’t miss out on making them feel loved.

Speaking of showing the love, one of my Galentines was having problems with her hair being super dry during the winter months. It’s a common issue.

Many of us struggle to keep our hair hydrated during this time of the year. Indoor heat can be super-dry and the hats we wear to stay warm don’t help, either. I recommended a product to her that I can’t live without.

It’s isn’t a miracle cure. There’s no replacement for simply staying hydrated. Using an electric humidifier helps as well. In addition, I use this excellent hair treatment oil by Verb, too. A few drops in your scalp daily is all you need to help lock in the moisture in your locks. Show your hair some love.

Another thing I’m loving right now is this gluten-free chocolate lava cake recipe. As I suffer from Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis, every way in which I can avoid consuming gluten provides me with tremendous health benefits and this cake provides a way to both do that and satisfy my chocolate craving simultaneously. All girls and gurls need chocolate. It’s a fact of life. Thus, include this cake on your Galentine’s Day menu for your friends who are sensitive to gluten to show them how much you love them.

If you have any Galentine’s Day experiences to share or tricks for keeping your hair healthy during the winter, I’d love to read them in the comments. Likes and shares are also always appreciated. Check me out on Instagram and Twitter. Until next time, smoochies!

The COVID-19 pandemic has wreaked a lot of havoc around the world. Safeguarding those whom you love and yourself against transmission is of utmost importance, taking precedence over nearly any and everything else in life right now.

Within that framework, however, there are ways sissies can actually take advantage of a situation which requires us to limit our contact with the world beyond our four walls. The most important thing is still safety. My beautiful, wonderful, sissy sisters, I implore you:

• Avoid touching your face as much as possible.
• If you must leave your home for essentials, keep your distance from other people and wear a face mask over your mouth and nose.
• Stay home as much as possible.
• Tip delivery drivers generously. They’re risking their lives so you don’t have to. They’re doing it for money, not just to be nice.
• Use hand sanitizer and wash your hands at every opportunity.

With that settled, all the remaining home will inevitably lead to some “cabin fever,” loneliness, and sheer boredom. Here are five ways you can stave off those emotions and continue to make progress in your sissification even in these trying circumstances.

Yoga, not toga

When you aren’t leaving your home for days on end, it can be very tempting to completely neglect the beauty regimen or dressing standard that has become part of your life as a sissy. There are valid reasons for saying, “fuck it,” for a day or two, like when you’re on your sissy “period.”

However, if you want to maintain your momentum in your sissification, you can’t just lazily wrap yourself in a bed sheet for days on end. This is a perfect opportunity to learn about yoga.

Not only does the activity skew feminine, but it’s amazing for your physical health. Additionally, it’s something you can easily do from the safety of your home.

All you need is a mat and an instructor, which you can find virtually on a number of platforms. Plus, taking up this activity gives you an excuse to order some cute new clothes!

Shows for pros

There are myriad documentaries and tutorials available on the Internet and in television programming. What are you interested in? Find content along those lines and learn, baby, learn!

If you want to keep up the pace on feminizing your habits and mind, this is a perfect opportunity to binge the kind of content that’s appropriate toward that end. Did you miss out on seasons of “The Bachelor” or “Gilmore Girls?” Get caught up!

As long as you’re staying active at other times, there’s zero shame in planting yourself in front of a screen for part of the day. As a matter of fact, some of your screen time should be intentionally devoted to your sissification.

You’re going to need some more batteries

If you’re getting delivery or running out for essentials, don’t forget the AA or AAA batteries. You can’t go out and get the quaranpeen safely, so you might never feel closer to your trusty vibrator than now.

Take in some man eye candy and fire up the machine but don’t get into a dopamine-fueled stupor. Just like eating, this is a biological need that can become a problem.

For sissies, it’s also a necessary part of the process, but it can become unhealthy if it dominates your time and starts to affect your ability to keep up with other areas of life. In its rightful place, however, have fun!

Zoom boon

One of the things you’re probably going to miss the most is social interaction. I’m not just talking about flirting with the guy at the grocery store, either.

Fortunately, there are a lot of ways to keep up with your girls and gurls safely. You might especially want to prioritize this if you live alone.

This is a spectacular chance to get to know your friends even better. Get on a video call and ask each other about any and everything. Without a lot of the external pressures non-pandemic life brings, you can really focus on sharing yourself and investing in others.

Get on a try high

Being at home a lot also affords us a great amount of time to experiment with different accessories and outfits. That can be a fun video call activity; mini fashion show.

There are a lot of services like Stitch Fix which will let you try wardrobe pieces before you buy them. Additionally, a lot of online retailers offer free returns for accessories, clothing, and shoes you buy online.

Since you’re not really going anywhere, if something doesn’t fit or look right, no one will be any the wiser. You may stumble upon your latest fashion crush this way.

There’s no telling how long this will remain the status quo, so please do all you can to stay safe and sane. If you have other recommendations for sissy life in shutdown, leave them in the comments. Likes and shares are always appreciated as well. Smoochies!

An old moniker says pain is weakness leaving the body. Along the same lines for sissies, it could be said that doubt, fear, guilt and shame are masculinity leaving the body.

While purging can be costly for sissies in terms of money and time, it’s a necessary part of the transformation process. Talk to any accomplished sissy about his journey and it will always contain several such incidences.

What is purging and why do sissies do it?

For those unfamiliar with the term in this context, purging is when a sissy gets rid of all his feminine clothing, makeup, and other items usually associated with women. It also usually involves his disappearance from online social networks and a cessation of his sexual activities with men.

The sissy will almost always determine to never pick up the activities again. He will endeavor to lead his life as a heterosexual man from that point forward.

These episodes often take place after the sissy has bought women’s clothes in person for the first time, met with a man for sex for the first time or his true nature has been discovered by someone he didn’t intend. It’s the inevitable swing back when the pendulum has swung too far toward him embracing being a sissy.

The psychology behind this reveals a lot about why it’s anything but a defeat for the inevitable embrace of sissiness, however. Actually, it’s a pivotal step in the eventual complete destruction of his “manhood.”

Purges are good and healthy

When sissies achieve a new level of femininity, it often comes amidst a euphoric feeling known as the “pink fog.” It’s a magical high that casts dispersions that life as a sissy is all lace and rainbows.

The fog dissipates eventually, however, leaving the sissy to deal with the very real-life consequences of his decisions. Family members and friends aren’t supportive, job situations are uncomfortable and the sissy’s own internal identity is chaotic.

In this dark fog and in an effort to stem those undesirable consequences, the sissy will purge. The dark fog is just as much of a temporary low as the pink fog is a temporary high.

Eventually, the sissy works out a true emotional and mental equilibrium through this process. In a clear state, free from either the dark or the pink fog, he is in control of his situation.

He makes decisions on how to live out the transformation he is undergoing with a clear head, accounting for both the challenges and the joys. He is under no delusion that life as a sissy will be all lace and rainbows but at the same time, it’s worth dealing with all the difficulties he will encounter.

Encouragement for sissies

If you’re in the pink fog, just know that the dark fog isn’t far behind. If you’re considering a purge, the best thing to do is to get it over with.

Eventually, you will purge for the last time and you will emerge from the cycle a confident and mature sissy. There’s no shortcut to that point, however.

Think of this cycle as your sissy coming-of-age. Know that you have a lot of support and you don’t have to go through the ups and downs alone.

Speaking of support, that’s something that we want during the summer while wearing more revealing tops. That means strapless bras. Here are my three favorites:

Le Mystere Sculptural

If you fall between 32A and 38D, this is the best overall strapless bra I’ve found. In terms of comfort and support while staying in place and even giving some lift, it’s hard to top this one. $65 on Amazon, available in black and the pictured natural.

Curvy Kate Lux

If you’re above and beyond that 38D threshold, this is a winner. The same stellar performance as bras for smaller sizes deliver but for larger sizes. Price varies depending on your size but it does come in five different shades as well.

Red Carpet Convertible by Wacoal

If you’re looking for something convertible instead of strictly strapless, this is my recommendation. It stays up as well as keeping your girls up plus maintains the shape you want. Nordstrom has it in three shades and sizes from 30 DD to 44 G for $68.

If you have purging stories, I’d love to read them in the comments. Likes and shares are always greatly appreciated as well. Until next time, smoochies!

Sissification is all about synergy between mental and physical transformation. The snowball effect in feminizing actions and a homosexual mindset can produce tremendous results. One device – and the accompanying experience – that is essential for sissies is a chastity cage.

There are significant physical and psychological benefits in caging for sissies. Those benefits are significant enough that true sissification will be nearly impossible without them.

The physical benefits of caging for sissies

Honing in on the physical benefits of caging for sissies requires defining exactly what the goal of the physical transformation aspect of sissification is. To be clear, it’s not to change the sissy’s body to function like and resemble a real woman’s.

Sissies know they are not and can never become female. To strive to be female would be counterproductive as it would nullify the homosexual element of attraction to and sexual activity with real men.

Rather, the goal is the emulation of real women in order to attract men. While in practice this can look very similar to the process of transitioning for trans women, the theory behind it is very different.

Caging aids the physical transformation part of the process of working toward that goal in two main ways. First, it prevents sissies’ masturbating like real men and forces them to do so more like a woman would, using dildos, fingers, toys and vibrators to penetrate and stimulate their anal cavities.

With consistency over time, that muscle memory leads to sissies’ bodies actually transferring the seat of erotic pleasure from the penis to the ass. That not only helps sissies truly enjoy sex with real men but also leads to perhaps the ultimate in physical transformation: when they completely lose the ability to achieve an erection but orgasm while flaccid nonetheless.

All those physical experiences have a compound and strong mental effect. In fact, the psychology of caging is crucial to the progression of the physical transformation.

The emotional/mental benefits of caging

Just as there will always be a clear line of demarcation physically between real women and sissies, the psychology of sissification involves a similar divide. Proper sissies know they can never completely replicate the hearts and minds of real women because they don’t have a lifetime of organic experiences that come with living in a female body.

That shouldn’t deter emulation, however, in the interest of attracting real men. The more feminine a sissy can shape his heart and mind, the more natural behaviors that lend toward that end will become.

A cage is a constant reminder that the sissy has voluntarily given up his “manhood” (such as it was in the first place). That naturally produces a desire to feel and think in a more feminine manner.

Intentionally striving to transfer erotic pleasure to the anus, partially by shutting down the option to achieve an erection and stimulate the penis, emits its greatest power mentally. It’s the re-wiring of neurons in the brain that truly make this possible.

When the sissy achieves the ultimate goal of perpetual flaccidity even during sexual activity and orgasm, it’s a huge moment for the sissy psychologically. The sissy’s ability to perceive himself as a “man” is greatly limited and the desire to take on even more significant physical transformation is strengthened.

The keys to success with caging are consistency and patience. Established muscle memories and neural pathways are not replaced overnight. It’s likely the masculine identities the sissies have built because of societal demands will be an issue sissies will have to deal with in order to pull it off as well.

A sissy can’t reach his full potential without a cage, however. Without it, he’s just a man in women’s clothes.

For those looking to make this commitment, I highly recommend The Vice. It is the best in comfort and functionality plus it comes in pink for maximum psychological effect.

Speaking of comfort and functionality, as we transition into the summer months, now is the best time for frugal sissies to save on fall and winter wardrobe staples. You can find tremendous savings on appropriate accessories, boots, cardigans, cold-weather sleepwear, jackets, jeans, pants and sweaters right now. Here are three picks:

Torrid offers an extra 40% off clearance to celebrate the limited reopening of some of its stores. That puts this cardigan at just $23.99, down from $49.50. It’s only available in the peach blush color but it’s very versatile and comes in four sizes (for now).

The Portland Utility Pant is so accurately named. ModCloth is a happy recent discovery of mine and this pant can help you build a plethora of looks for many falls and winters to come. It’s currently down to $49.99 from $69, comes in army green as well as the pictured black and 14 sizes.

There’s no more iconic accessory for fall and winter than the classic wool scarf. This beauty will cost you just $11.66 and it comes in bright yellow, grey and the pictured black. Not having one is like not being caged.

As always, please let me know your thoughts in the comments section. If you have any experiences with caging or clearance finds for fall/winter pieces, I want to read what you have to say.

Likes and shares are greatly appreciated, until next week lovelies, smoochies!

This is the first guest post in the history of this blog. The author of this post is a woman in her early 40s who has lived through the situation in the title and wanted to share her experience and some great advice. Enjoy, smoochies!

Ladies, if you find that the person you married, thinking him to be a man, actually turns out to be a sissy who is more interested in wearing your clothes than taking them off of you, all is not lost. There are actually reasons to keep him around if that’s something you are considering.

Many wives feel intense shame at the fact that they’ve married a limp-wristed queer who dresses in women’s clothes. That shame is understandable. What would your family and friends think if they knew that the “good catch” you’d married is actually a transvestite pansy?

But it’s something many women fall for. It isn’t your fault.

Sissies can be very adept at deceiving people that they are men because they have spent years deceiving themselves about the very same thing.

From a very early age, when most start dressing up in their mother’s or sister’s clothes, they start learning the art of deceit and refining their skills at convincing people that they are boys when beneath the male exterior is actually an effeminate sissy, dressing in women’s clothes and consuming gay male pornography at every opportunity.

Indeed, most of them typically spend their teenage years deceiving themselves. They convince themselves, from the first time they try on a bra and a pair of panties, that it’s just an “innocent curiosity”.

Then it becomes “a phase” they’ll “grow out of.” Then a “mere diversion” they can just turn their backs on. Then a “harmless fetish” that they can control.

They can’t control it. It controls them.

What they can control – for a time – is their ability to act out the role of a boy or man, to the point that they even convince themselves of it at a cognitive level while viscerally there is a limp-wrested fairy just waiting for his next opportunity to mince about in high heels, lacy women’s underwear and pretty dresses while pleasuring himself to visual imagery of real men and gay male sex.

Eventually most wives find out. You probably already have and that’s why you’re reading this. You are probably re-hashing all the red flags you chose to ignore. I did that myself.

This might be because you came home unexpectedly to find the “man” you married, painted with makeup mincing about in women’s clothes. Those clothes may have even been your own.

Maybe your husband appeared to lose sexual interest in you. He started “working late” on a regular basis and found reasons to be “out of town on business” with increasing and implausible frequency. He may have started struggling to perform or making excuses about why he wasn’t interested. In these circumstances, it is common to assume your “husband” was cheating on you with another woman.

You may have found, to your horror, that the “other woman” is actually your husband. Often, it is just a case where you stumbled upon your husband’s “stash” of women’s clothing and gay pornography.

Your husband might hope that you learn to accept his crossdressing and true sexuality and perhaps even like or participate in it. Most wives don’t. Don’t feel pressured to do so if you aren’t comfortable with that.

To find that the “man” you married is in fact not a real man but an effeminate queer that dresses up in women’s wear can be a crushing and mortifyingly humiliating revelation to the vast majority of wives. Many walk out immediately or after some time and you are completely justified in doing so if that is your decision.

Some remain under the same roof, living two separate lives, while maintaining the charade of a marriage. That’s a hard life to maintain and for many, leaving would be a better course of action.

But some women, after they’ve internalized the initial shock, learn to turn the situation to their advantage. It’s up to you but it’s very possible and there are some upsides to doing so.

A sissy husband will not do a thing if you start seeing other men. The sissy husband is filled with guilt. He knows that he breached faith with you, even if it did not involve love for another. He knows he has no right to expect you to still relate to him as a man.

He knows he is not a man. It may only be deep down and getting him to admit it may prove difficult but he knows. He may be jealous of the real men you are dating, but he knows that it was he who betrayed you.

Even if he wanted to say or do something about your dating, he knows he is compromised. What if you let the “whole world” know – his friends, his family, his work colleagues, the neighbors – that you are dating and sleeping with other men because your “husband” is a queer sissy?

So he will meekly accept it. Indeed, in many cases, he will be perversely aroused by his own humiliation.

The sissy will, in fact, willingly allow himself to be used as a domestic servant. He will carry out domestic services such as laundry, ironing, cleaning, cooking, and shopping all while dressed in women’s clothes. Most will even revel in the shame of doing so in front of another man, a real man, who you are having sex with.

Your new boyfriend may also enjoy the pleasure of having your sissy husband serve the two of you drinks and refreshments while dressed as a woman. Your husband’s effeminacy enhances your boyfriend’s own sense of manhood.

You may also derive some Schadenfreude from witnessing your husband’s abject emasculation and humiliation as revenge for the deceit he perpetrated against you and the emotional pain and humiliation he inflicted on you.

If that’s the case, and you have the stomach for this, you will be doing him and other women a favor by pushing that emasculation. If you can make him feel comfortable enough to accept and embrace the gay fairy he really is, then you will have enabled him to rid himself of a huge stress factor in his life. Even if you ultimately don’t stay with him, you will have saved any other women from being deceived by him.

Some women find that after their husbands accept themselves and adjust to their new lives of openly being homosexual sissies, the emotional and mental connection they had actually gets stronger. Without the stress of unsuccessfully trying to maintain traditional roles and a sexual relationship, you will find you have much more in common with your husband and are free to enjoy experiences with him. What’s better than going shopping with someone who not only is enthusiastic about that but who will pay the bills as well!?!

Once again, the pain of this betrayal is very real and it is not a signal that there is anything wrong with you. You were deceived and you are completely justified if you want to wash your hands of the perpetrator of that deceit. If you can stomach it after a time, however, you can enjoy the comforts of maintaining a very advantageous domestic and financial relationship with your “husband” while simultaneously taking part in the perks of being a single woman.